Dividing the winter holidays can be very tricky after a divorce. In some cases, parents may not live close together. In other cases, they may adamantly want to be with the children at the same time.
But there are steps that parents can take to determine in advance how they want to share the holidays. Here are a few options to consider.
Choosing different days to celebrate
One option is to have multiple parties or celebrations. If you’re trying to divide Christmas, for instance, you may have the children on Christmas Eve and then bring them to your ex’s in the evening so that they are with your ex on Christmas morning.
Switch the years
If you want to celebrate on the actual holiday, one tactic may be to alternate back and forth every other year. This year, your ex has the children on Christmas, and you do next year. This can be difficult for some parents on the off years, but many parents just start new traditions for those years.
Finally, some parents decided that they’re just going to celebrate the holiday together, on the actual day. In an amicable divorce, these parents may be able to set their differences aside, put their children first and have one shared celebration. But this is certainly not possible for all couples and depends on their unique circumstances.
These are a few options to keep in mind when considering the holidays. If things get complicated – such as if your ex is refusing to follow the schedule or the court order – take a look into your legal options as a parent.