Imagine being in a position where you knew you’d have a tight work schedule after your divorce and have to regularly use babysitters or a day care to watch your child. Despite that, you arranged your schedule to give you the most time with your child and to make time for all their extracurricular needs.
Then, imagine finding out that your ex-spouse was going to move a few hours away to a different state to take a job closer to their family and that they want to take your child there, too. They want to use the fact that you’d use babysitters to show that the situation isn’t best for your child.
You believe that you’re a more reasonable and responsible parent. Even though you have no family nearby, you have regular babysitters and nannies who know your kids. Now, you’re caught in a contentious issue where your ex-spouse wants custody and you want to fight to keep your child in the most stable environment.
What do you do if your ex-spouse wants to move away with your child?
If your ex-spouse wants to move away with your child, you need to be very clear on your position. Do you think it’s reasonable that your child could be happy and healthy in that situation? Will you be able to visit on the weekends or on school breaks?
If the other parent is moving nearby because the state border is close, then it might be easier. However, if you’re going to be far apart, the idea of taking your child away would be upsetting. In that case, there would need to be a strong plan in place to provide enough visitation and custody time to the noncustodial parent.
This issue can quickly become contentious. If you’re planning to fight to keep your child with you, you may want to talk to your attorney about putting together a strong argument for your case.